Today’s article topic today – ‘Why School ruined my life’ sounds rather strange, doesn’t it? Hmm…how can school, one of the vital citadels or institutions for learning, ruin someone’s life?
Well, believe it or not, it is very much possible that school–education can ruin a person’s life. I know you are asking me, HOW?
Ok, imagine this, your passion in life is to be a musician, and you have the talent and drive for it, but your know-it-all parents would never stand for that, and they do all they can to push you to study what they perceive are ‘big’ professions and jobs like being a doctor or a lawyer, but meanwhile, you have neither the motivation nor desire to be any of those things.
All right, you agreed with them to study what they want you to study. You start studying medicine, law, or engineering, but that is very far from what you wanted to study. And as time goes on, you observe that you are faring very poorly in this area, and why wouldn’t you?
You will fail when you lack the zeal, motivation, and inspiration for whatever you do. Well, you continue to push on and graduate some years later with bad results and degrees, and you realize that the bad degrees you have cannot take you anywhere not to talk of giving you that ‘big’ professional job that your parents wanted for you.
Before you know it, you are stuck in a mundane job you never thought of doing even in your wildest dreams. And that aside, due to the weak mental state you might have complicated your life further by being a drug addict, thief, or pickpocket, and either getting pregnant in the case of a girl or impregnating someone in the case of a boy thereby making you an unready parent and of course who knows what other negative vices you might have engaged in to keep yourself going.
So yes! The statement: ‘Why School ruined my life’ is very conceivable. You can spend a great deal of years learning or getting the wrong type of education at the wrong school, and on finishing later, you realize that you have wasted your life all that life, and if care is not taken, you are on your way to ruining your life.
We have gone around and done a lot of research as well as getting ‘why school ruined my life’ answers to get to the root of this quandary – How can school ruin someone’s life?
The following are experiences and answers from different sources in response to how school can ruin a person’s life:
An article coined from School Ruined my Life by Futurist Kwame A.A Opoku
As a young entrepreneur and speaker, education is of paramount importance to me for 2 reasons;
- Because it primarily focuses on learning
- And also the acquisition and dissemination of knowledge.
I read an article this morning on LinkedIn that totally gave me the energy I needed to start my #SchoolRuinedMyLife Campaign. The Article was written by Juliet Asante, a renowned entrepreneur, and filmmaker. The article was titled: “WHY YOU ARE WASTING YOUR TIME IN THE CLASSROOM”.
So here it is, I will be releasing a series of serial articles expounding my thoughts as a product of the system and the damage it has caused me and what can be done in light of technology and social reforms. If you can identify with my thoughts on the matter, share, comment, join the campaign and let us start a movement.
I want to start by asking 2 very basic questions that have been ignored for far too long;
- WHO OR WHAT IS THE UNIVERSAL STANDARD OF INTELLIGENCE?
- WHAT IS EDUCATION?
Every country on earth at the moment is reforming public education. There are two reasons for this. The first of them is ECONOMIC. People are trying to work out how we educate our children to take their place in the economies of the 21st century? How do we do that given that we can't anticipate what the economy will look like at the end of next week, as the recent turmoil is demonstrated? How do we do that? The second is CULTURAL. Every country on earth is trying to figure out how we educate our children so they have a sense of cultural identity so that we can pass on the cultural genes of our communities while being part of the process of globalization. How do we square that circle? The problem is they're trying to meet the future by doing what they did in the past. And on the way, they're alienating millions of kids who don't see any purpose in going to school. When we went to school we were kept there with a story which is if you work hard and did well and got a university degree you would have a job.
“We don’t believe that anymore”
And were right not to, by the way. You're better off having a degree than not but it's not a guarantee anymore. Over 10 of my year mates in the University have reached out to me for a job and let us be clear some of them made 1st Class, in fact, every single one of them who has since reached out did “BETTER THAN ME IN SCHOOL” whatever that phrase means.1https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/school-ruined-my-life-immanuel-a-a-opoku-opoku
And particularly not if the route to it marginalizes most of the things that you think are important about yourself.
The problem is that the current system of education was designed and conceived and structured for a different age and time. It was conceived in the intellectual, culture of the enlightenment. And in the economic circumstances of the industrial revolution. Before the middle of the 19th century there were no systems of public education, not really. I mean you could get educated by Jesuits if you had the money or run to the Gnostic Schools of Egypt. But public education paid for from taxation, compulsory to everybody and free at the point of delivery - that was a revolutionary idea.
And many people objected to it - they said it's not possible for many street kids and working class children to benefit from public education, they're incapable of learning to read and write and why are we spending time on this? So there's also built into it a whole series of assumptions about social structure and capacity. It was driven by an economic imperative of the time but running right through it was an intellectual model of the mind, which was essentially the enlightenment view of intelligence; that real intelligence consists in this capacity for a certain type of deductive reasoning and a knowledge of the classics originally, what we come to think of as academic ability.
And this is deep in the gene pool of public education; there are only two types of people - academic and non-academic; smart people and non-smart people. And the consequence of that is that many brilliant people think they're not because they've been judged against this particular view of the mind. So we have twin pillars - economic and intellectual. And my view is that this model has caused chaos in many people's lives; it's been great for some, there have been people who have benefitted wonderfully from it. But most people have not.
If you think of it the arts, and I don't say this exclusively, the arts, I think it's also true of science and of maths, but I say about the arts particularly because they are the victims of this mentality currently - particularly. The arts especially address the idea of aesthetic experience. And aesthetic experience is one in which your senses are operating at their peak, when you're present in the current moment, when you're resonating with the excitement of this thing that you're experiencing, when you're fully alive.
“CREATIVITY IS INTELLIGENCE HAVING FUN” ALBERT EINSTEIN
Coined from How Education Ruined My Life By Rinkesh Gorasia
The value of what is taught is less, and how much you spend to learn is more
I still remember how I used to get excited to go to school every day (most of the time). Those days were evergreen, memories that would be cherished forever. But as soon as I completed my school life, I was asked and told to make decisions about what branch to take, what I want to be and the list of questions goes on…
Seriously, I was clueless. I had no idea what to do. And was just trying to look around and copy what others are doing just like everyone else. Its funny that we want our kids at the age of 15 to decide what they want to be in life but still call them immature on all other occasions. WOW!!
The only thing I realized school taught me is how to score better than others and believe that the only way to success is good marks else you are nothing.
The central purpose of education, learning, and collaboration should be to mediate voluntary evolution. In its current state, what we call education is leading humanity towards extinction.
Education is like a forced, timeshare sales pitch for college. Becoming financially self-sufficient, earning money, inventing things to sell, collaborating, finding meaningful work, or learning new skills is absent. After crippling students’ ability to make or generate money, teachers, professors, and parents sell the idea that a college degree will help students get everything they want in life. Marketing, selling, and pushing massively expensive degrees onto children who are forced to be in school isn’t ethical.
I was always overlooked
As a kid, I was pretty shy and quiet student but always wanted to speak and contribute to as many things as possible. But I was always discouraged, never given chances, never looked upon and sidelined. And its not the just the case with me, its with the majority of students.
Teachers and schools for their sake overlook a majority of the students who don’t get to do anything because of those few people who are good at it.
Most of the students pursuing their UG/PG still lack the ability to speak in front of people. Neither do they have the confidence and that style of putting their thoughts out to the audience.
Education has promoted decades of listening to ineffective speakers. Without the opportunity to practice speaking, students are ill-prepared for the world and unable to challenge the very foundation that controls their destiny.
Students are trained to not speak unless an authority figure allows them to speak. Then, they are trained to not speak unless they have an entire room of judgmental peers listening. This is a recipe to train people to always be afraid to speak publicly, and always be on the lookout to censor brave individuals who dare speak up without the permission of an authority figure, or in the absence of judgmental peers.
We are never taught to read and write
We are always encouraged, forced, and restricted to our syllabus. There are no discussions about what skills should we improve upon or take up.
Education promotes an unconscious hatred of reading, and an inability to seek out the best books and authors. Ask any student, of any age, what they’ve been reading lately. It will be a short conversation. The best books that created the western ideal of the individual, morality, and all the wealth and technology around us, are rarely presented to students.
Education installs an unconscious hatred of writing. Two decades of being trained as a circus animal to perform writing about things the student doesn’t care about, from teachers who don’t want to read it, is enough to keep most individuals from ever exploring writing on their own.
No writing exercises in Education are practiced for writing in the real world. None are designed to help an individual get to know themselves or to construct an argument.
Education is child abuse for the best, and child protection for the rest.
Too many teachers and professors appear to have a chip on their shoulder. Entire generations of boys and girls are taught by certain teachers who are bitter, angry, confused, and no longer interested in improving themselves. To confirm this, simply ask the best teachers you know what their colleagues are like. The best teachers in education shoulder the burden of all those who are bitter and lazy.
This is the reality of our current situation and points to the massive challenge that education must confront and work to solve. There are great teachers inside the system who face the demoralizing prospect that plenty of the parents of their students reverse all of their efforts. The reverse is true as well, there are great parents who have all their work erased by sending their kids to school.
We are not allowed to explore
I still remember how many times I went against my parents and teachers to let me play football or play a character in a drama or any other co-curricular activity but most of the time I was not allowed to do that. The teachers also never encouraged any kind of activity since I was not good at academics.
The Parents-Teachers meetings were all about marks and complaints and no other skills or attributes were being discussed from either of side.
Most people are coerced by others to enter Education, and they are not free to leave on their own to pursue a better or more voluntary path. They develop the habit to procrastinate on anything they choose to do voluntarily. This causes an intense hatred of self and deep confusion that paralyses most of the educated for their entire life.
Children are naturally curious and love learning. They love philosophy when it is presented. They love to create. But having every decision critiqued at home and at school will crush that curiosity.
Education has become a fundamentalist religion
Education installs the mind virus of fundamentalism — the erroneous notion that there is only right and wrong, or the correct way and the incorrect way. If you believe something under this toxic ideology, you are precluded from believing the opposite. In the complicated world of real-life choices, there are typically many answers that are useful, and many answers that are more correct than others. There are always more than two sides to any debate and more than two ways to solve any problem.
Education doesn’t train students on how to assess and make good life choices.2https://medium.com/writers-guild/how-education-ruined-my-life-78522d5c921d Freedom of true choice is suppressed so that children remain children. Education will only ask about a person’s preferences (grades, sports, and other activities) when it comes to selecting one of the many same colleges, thus giving an illusion of choice.
In casual conversations, individuals are coerced to advertise if and how they’ve been saved — where they have gone to school, or what college they attended. You are supposed to broadcast and advertise for the accredited government institution where you paid a lot of money to receive what could arguably be called a worthless piece of paper.
The curse of Education
Sharing is the first thing taught to little children to ensure students can be stolen from later in life. Being forced to give up something that you are using simply because someone else wants it, teaches two terrible lessons:
1) I can get what I want by throwing a tantrum, and
2) Someone more powerful can take what I thought was mine to play with or use and give it away. We first have to learn how to appropriately value ourselves and our things before we can share intelligently.
Anytime a child, or young adult, might decide to explore the miracle that they exist and can develop free will, become freer, or achieve great success in life, Education’s original sin program begins to run in their brain. The afflicted begin to self-censor and resurrect guilt for existing.
Education is the place where students are prevented from ever learning how to protect and defend themselves. Those who are bullied inside the walls of Education are prevented from learning how to protect and defend themselves. Education’s rule of, “no matter who started it, both are in trouble” is designed to create sheep who run to the Shepherd to protect them.
Education controls the habits and thoughts of people for the first two decades of their lives. A teaching of science is that the entire universe exploded from matter the size of a pinhead for no reason, and the entire universe will end in a heat death. Is science so lost that it thinks there is no reason or meaning for anything?
Higher education is the process where individuals commit to a path that ensures they specialize in one thing. They become helpless in every other area of their life and are forced to try and work with other “Educated” types who have been crippled in different ways.
Education prevents students from being free to work and earn money in the real world. Without money and the experience of interacting with adults in a way that creates value, students are helpless.
When you’re properly using your mind and intelligence, they continually make you aware of how little you know. This is a feeling to be savored, instead of avoided.
Science teaches that experiments with an N of 1 can’t be trusted, yet each of us are running an experiment with an N of 1 — our lives.
Everything we see around us is nature that has survived or evolved through endless cycles of post-traumatic growth. That means real “learning” is the result of stress and shocks followed by adequate recovery.
Information isn’t wisdom. The path to teaching students to become wise will come through encouraging direct experience and challenges in the real world. This can only happen through leadership by healthy and happy leaders (also known as teachers).
Only when we simulate and introduce the right amount of adversity, at the right time, with the right amount of recovery will our outdated ideas about “Education” become reformed into a more voluntary form of self-directed learning. Only after that does humanity have a chance to evolve and escape extinction.
If I stand up in the front row of a soccer stadium, the person behind me will have to stand too. This creates a chain reaction — soon, everybody is standing up. Yet, nobody has a better view.
Education may be stuck in this kind of vicious spiral. To be competitive, we need to get bigger degrees. But what happens in a world where everyone has a meaty degree? We need to get even meatier.
Before we know it, all of us will be in school for the rest of our lives 😉
If what education does is “raise the bar” (like standing up in a stadium), then we could — in theory — lower the bar (say, by having everyone go to school for 4 years fewer) and get similar results.
If we had to choose between a school that guaranteed higher marks for our children by making them masters of mindless cramming and regurgitation, versus one which would teach them to be original and innovative at the expense of doing badly in the exams, which would we send them?
Let’s stop being hypocrites – the markets supply what we demand!
It’s remarkable that some students still survive schooling without suffering permanent brain damage!
I was a part of that bright prospectus print used to lure you into this fancy education system & I curse myself I didn’t say no to the fake propaganda & did not hold my fake smile back.
From snippets in Quora:
- From Clave Cruz: You arent the only one who has to suffer in school my friend. School is actually pointless. School ruins family life. It only makes parents look at you for your success, not for your mental health. Parents say we need to go to school, and that it is somewhat important. As a matter of fact, they cant be talking. Some dont even know what 2x2 or 5x5 is. They learned nothing helpful. They tell us that we’re stupid? They should shut the hell up when they be on Facebook all day. A job of a parent is to make surr your child is ready for the future and support them. However, most just abuse their child, or even worse, they kill them. And to be honest, getting good grades to me is worse than getting bad grades, because my parents are only gonna look at me as im some smart kid, but if i simply go one number down, their whole perspective will change. parents are dumb when they think you get smarter when you progress through grade levels. Its not like if you passed kindergarten, you immediately know what your gonna do in 8th grade.
- School has ruined my mental health, and my mom is making me go anyways, and she won’t listen to what I have to say3https://www.quora.com. How do I let her know what is going on? - Xue Ning: I didn’t liked school since I was 7. I get nervous and scared. I have to call my mum everyday during break time and if she never picks up the phone, I would break down and cry. It got worse when I’m in secondary school, 13yo. I just hated school so much that I decided imma gonna stay at home and no one is going to force me there. Eventually, my mum took me to a psychiatrist and I’m diagnosed with a mild depression. From then I never went back to school. I went to work 2years later, I liked it, I’m happy.
Till now then I realise why I’m nervous and afraid. It’s anxiety. I don’t have bad childhood but anxiety just hit me at 7yo. I’m 23 now, it still does when life doesn’t go as I expected. My dog just passed suddenly last month, anxiety hit me hard. I’m devasted, thought of suicide. He meant so much to me..I didn’t want life to go on without him….still living each day thinking if I should go on.
Anyways, I guessed the main reason I didn’t like school is because of my teachers. Most of them don’t respect you and are sarcastic everytime.
Hmm. Going through all these, you can have your pick of ways in which school can ruin a person’s life. Right from your parents forcing you to study what you do not have passion for to the schooling environment, rules/regulations, and down to the type of teachers teaching you as well as the characters of the students in that school. So, most definitely, education – schooling can ruin a person’s life.
Watch the video below to know what Elon Musk said on how school can ruined a person's life:
Why Does School Have to Be Stressful?
Well, telling in simple terms the current education system in almost every country is highly outdated.
It only focuses on three main undesirable things: -
- Putting extreme and dangerous levels of pressure on children.
- Threatening and scaring children unnecessarily.
- Forcefully keeping them occupied with work that is not really necessary.
Well, the problem is that the current-day children are not capable of handling pressure. The endurance that previous generations had is not there in this generation. Therefore, the education system must change in such a way that it focuses more on proactive and practical activities and not on useless pressure-giving activities.
Threatening and scaring children unnecessarily will not help in making them better. It will most likely turn them hostile, and if the background is volatile, then they can easily give in to the world of crime.
Unnecessarily giving them unproductive homework will only make them more anxious and agitated.
Now, a lot of people debate about the fact that things such as gadget addiction and other distractions are the main problem and the confiscation of gadgets will help. Well, the answer is no, not at all.
It is common for children in today's world to be addicted to gadgets. This is because gadgets allow children to monitor the entire globe through their screens and also have activities such as video games that jumpstart dopamine production to a great extent.
Thus, when gadgets are confiscated, it only scares the child and makes them feel claustrophobic. It also triggers withdrawal symptoms when they are suddenly separated from their gadgets.
Thus, the only solution to solve this problem is that the education system should be changed. The education system should be compatible with all the problems of the modern generation such as gadget addiction, depression, anxiety, fear, etc.
Coping with School
Check the following snippets below to see how people cope with the challenges experienced in school:
Ive already missed 35 days of school due to my anxiety and depression and now i cant even get myself to go one day a week. I feel like i’m letting everyone down, this happened last year and its just embarrassing. What should i do? - secondhand nature:
Did my daughter write this? Seriously she said almost these exact words. I'll tell you what i told her.
You're not letting anyone down. You have a real illness. It's real. It's not made up. Would you be mad at someone with cancer if they missed a lot of school because of feeling ill from chemo? No. You wouldn't because that not their fault. This is not your fault.
Just like them you should see a doctor and see if your health can improve. Medicine and therapy is probably needed. But be nice to yourself. Continue to fight. Continue to try. Don't give up. Your family loves you, your friends love you, and random people on the internet are pulling for you.
School is really stressing me out, it is affecting my life and i feel like i am losing my mind, how do i reduce stress about school? - o. Xin yi:
Let’s just say, i’m in your position right now. To be honest, i have been an incorrigible mess for the whole of the 1st semester. For the first time in my life i got 17/30 for math, barely passing when i should be scoring as. I did my work last minute. Group projects became my excuse for screen time and it also became an emotional burden due to my group mates.
Procrastination was at its peak and i always felt guilty about it when my “free time” isn’t productive. I keep telling myself i will change, and i dream of being a better version of myself, but nothing changes. It’s problematic but it’s part of life. I’m losing my shit here too. I’m barely coping. But the thing is, whatever you want to become, be it stress free, be it scoring better, be it having more fun, you need to start today.
Don’t make empty promises to yourself. If you want to have fun then go out and play for a minute. Don’t get sucked into a black hole of stress because of school. Think about it this way, i’m wasting my life here and that’s why i am going to make a difference. School will suck for a bit until you get used to dealing with its shit, and yes, i haven’t yet. But you know one day you’ll look back, and think, hey, i’m proud that i helped myself during this time and i turned out to be fine.
You’re not alone, and you’ll need to find your own coping mechanism too. Mindfulness, self-help books, whatever it be, it all boils down to your mental strength to cope with the stress. People can tell you and give you advice, but what goes on in your head is something we cannot control. Hence, stress is not something we can control. I hope you can try to make life less of a misery because that’s all i can do for now but wishing you well, you will still need to deal with the stress school brings in the future.
I’m 16 and i hate school. I’m struggling mentally and my grades are not good at all and i’m truly trying my best. I want to drop out but at the same time i want to graduate and feel like i’ve actually accomplished something in life. What should i do? - Elizabeth Pollock:
I had a lot of problems with school too. With undiagnosed asperger’s/autism, i found it very difficult to get along with most of my peers and i often found it difficult to focus on school work at home (homework and assignments were almost never done) so i wasn’t satisfied with my passing but average school grades either.
When i was 16, we moved and i decided not to go back to school, to instead get a job. I’m slow and clumsy, however, so i couldn’t do any of the entry level jobs fast enough, and i almost always failed the social test of getting through an interview leaving a good impression (i was mostly “too honest” and didn’t promote my good points well enough). I was given a couple of months to get a job or go back to school and i ended up back in school, unhappy and feeling like a failure in the workforce too.
Anxiety and depression were building up and i still wasn’t doing any school work at home so i finished grade 11 (of grades 12 total) with mostly c’s, compared to my a’s in class. Dissatisfied, i fought hard against my teachers, principal and other staff (who just wanted me to move on) to restart grade 11 (apparently repeating a grade goes against the good image of the school or something). I finally got my wish with firm plans to do all homework and assignments.
History repeated itself of course (it isn’t easy to change a habit of over a decade and i’d done nothing to address the roots of my problems) and i ended up giving in to my depression, anxiety and self-loathing, quitting school about a quarter of the way into the year.
I was in grade 11. I had one year left to push through if i hadn’t foolishly tried to be the perfectionist i knew i couldn’t live up to
Do i regret it all? Hell, yeah. I could have finished it but then i screwed myself over and gave up. If i’d pushed through it, i wouldn’t have had so many awkward conversations about why i didn’t. I would have had what you said, “something i actually accomplished in life”.
Now, 20 years later, i haven’t accomplished anything. You know why? Because i have a nasty voice in my head that tells me i can’t.
It tells me i can’t do anything i try to do (or even just want to do) because of all the times i’ve failed in the past. Every time i try, i have this extra layer of pressure telling me that i’m a quitter, a failure, and that this is going to be just the same as all those other times.
That voice is right. I can’t do anything. I am a quitter and a failure.
If you quit one thing that you know you could have pushed through, it weakens every subsequent attempt to push through something else and to shut up the dumb voice in your head that tries to get you to quit. It becomes a vicious cycle, where you try and you quit and you try less and you quit more, until you give up trying altogether. Every time is ammo for the voice for every time after that.
Therapy might help but i hate myself so i quit that too. Again and again and again, until last time i was downright suicidal for even daring to think i was worthy of trying to get help when i knew i’d quickly quit anyway and waste everyone’s time and end up hating myself all the more.
That’s how bad that voice can get. It isn’t fun and every time you get softer, it gets louder and harder.
Don’t. Give. In.
Fight. Fight hard. Every time you want to run away from something, run towards it instead. The only time you should quit something is if you choose you want something better, not running away from the bad but running towards a real focused and specific goal of good that you’ve thought about and removed the emotion from.
Make your life better, push through for the important stuff, try to get help if you can (help makes you strong, not weak!) And decide the life you want, not just giving in to the demons in your head because they want you to have a lousy life!
Good luck. Sincerely. I can’t do anything. You can do everything. Keep that, don’t ever lose it. It’s really hard to get it back once it starts to slip.
Is it normal to cry at home when thinking about having to go to school the next day? - Steve Mccrea
I think the real question should be, “Is it normal to be expected to attend a school that makes me cry when I think about going in the morning?” The problem is with the school, not with you. There is a reason you don’t want to go, and I felt the very same a lot of the time I went to school. It was like slow torture to me.
I’d be interested to know what it is that makes school so awful for you. Bullying? Mean teachers? Feeling unsuccessful? Feeling lonely and isolated? Feeling bored to tears? Wanting to do something else that they stop you from doing?
Tears ARE normal - they are a normal reaction to feeling trapped in an unworkable situation, or to losing something that was important to you. The problem isn’t the tears, it’s whatever you’re facing that you feel you can’t deal with. Find a way to deal with that, and you’ll be feeling a lot better.
Have you considered attending another school? Or going to college?
7 Tips to Help You Stop Stressing Out Over School
- Make a study schedule.
- Find something interesting in the material you are learning.
- Make time for yourself.
- Don't keep talking about how stressed out you are.
- Ask for help.
- Say no to things you won't be able to handle.
- Remind yourself that life moves on.
Why is school ruining your life? Is the work too hard? Do you feel as if you have made the wrong course or degree choice? Do you feel as if people do not understand you? Why do you feel dead inside? Why do you believe you could have done better things? I am glad that you are not bullied which would only have made matters worse. However, feeling the way you feel can impact your overall health and make it difficult to concentrate. Four years is a long time to feel this way. It is understandable to feel overwhelmed at times.
School often shapes who we are for a lifetime. The good thing is life is always about second chances. There are always opportunities to do better or grow regardless of where you are now. Things might look miserable now but what are some good things about the school and what are things that are not a waste? You should talk to a counselor who is there to help, all what you say is confidential. The counselor is held to a standard of high ethics. I have experienced uncertainty in life and seeking advice really helped. The world awaits your magic and your charm, try focusing not on yesterday but on the possibilities that you have and there are plenty of roads open for your success.
A Word of Advice from Healthsoothe
When it seems like you no longer know what you are doing, this sounds like it's the perfect time to take a break from school. You can always go back later.
Do something that you want to do. Create something that you will be pleased with. Life is way too short to be miserable. Your feeling of depression and feeling dead inside is a powerful message from yourself to yourself: Do I read me? Something is not right. This is not the right direction for me. Take this message as a positive, and plan to change direction to one that will not make you feel dead inside.
Don’t allow failure in one direction to discourage you in other directions. Everyone feels this way after their first big defeat. Most people pick themselves up again and try something different, and eventually forget this ever happened. That could be you.
Frequently Asked Questions About Schooling
There can be several reasons for hating school, some of which include:
- Lack of Freedom.
- Monotonous Schedule.
- Loneliness and Bullying.
- Lack of Interest in the Subjects Offered.
- Inability to Learn.
- Loads of Homework and Fear of Exams
In small amounts, it can be good, because it pushes you to work hard and do your best, such as during exams. But if you're feeling very stressed or feel you cannot manage stress, it can lead to mental health problems such as depression and anxiety. It can also affect your academic performance.
- Make a study schedule.
- Find something interesting in the material you are learning.
- Make time for yourself.
- Don't keep talking about how stressed out you are.
- Ask for help.
- Say no to things you won't be able to handle.
- Remind yourself that life moves on.
Although crying is a perfectly normal human emotion that we all experience sometimes, it can be embarrassing to cry at school. Fortunately, there are a number of tips and tricks that can help you to hide your tears at school if you are having a rough day but don't want anyone else to know about it.
You might not like school because a bully is bothering you, or because a kid you don't like wants to hang around with you. Or maybe you don't get along with your teacher. You might feel different or worry that you don't have enough friends. Sometimes it's a problem with your classes and schoolwork.
It could be a sign of an anxiety disorder, or another problem at school. For instance: A child with OCD might avoid going to school because it's hard for them to manage their anxiety there. A child who's been bullied may be afraid to go to school because their tormentors are there.
- Check-in with the teacher. Most kids who cry at drop-off turn off the tears right after the preschool goodbye.
- Become an early bird.
- Get her excited about the school day.
- Give her something to hold.
- Get her busy.
- Stay positive.
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